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The Law of Attraction Vs Non-attachment

Dear Jane,
I'm excited about a potential new job, but I held myself in check, trying to practice the Buddhist concept of non-attachment. But The Secret teaches that if I did not let me get excited about the job, I'm not going to attract me. These philosophies are confusing to me. Which should I choose?

The mental games we play with ourselves can be exasperating. The reason which we invoke non-attachment may have less to do with a desire to be informed that a superstition that underlie it is bad luck want something too. But then the secret tells us to do everything in our power to manifest what we want. Inevitably, we face questioning If this law of "attraction" is immutable. Are there exceptions? If we want something too, is it a "law of repulsion? Should we try to find a middle ground with our emotions, willing enough, whatever "fair enough" mean?

If you're simply afraid of disappointment and try to minimize the disappointment if something does not go as planned, then you are already suffering from disappointment, does not it? And deliberately limiting your enthusiasm, you are not really tied to disappointment? Why do this for you?

It is possible to Revel in the excitement of anticipation and hope while practicing non-attachment. Non-attachment to the result means that you do not attach any sense to feel forever. This means not being committed to always feeling excited or hope or success, it does not mean not ever feel really excited. Practice non-attachment allows you to be alternately excited and disappointed, by giving them their emotions passing time while practicing does not focus on the former or avoid it. While "not attached" requires lots of practice, it is very different from "not feel."

Enlightenment is not the same as coverage of our emotional paris. The Dalai Lama says that the goal of enlightenment is to know happiness. Then it may be as simple as "be happy" when you're happy and "disappointed" when things do not go well. You not have to crush your joy or your sorrow for obscure reasons to practice enlightenment. Maybe you can practice taking your feelings which are ephemeral anyway, a little lighter. This may not be secret, but it's a secret.

About the Author

Jane Straus is a trusted life coach, dynamic keynote speaker, and the author of Enough Is Enough!: Stop Enduring and Start Living Your Extraordinary Life. With humor and grace, Jane offers her clients and seminar participants insights and exercises to ensure that the next chapter of their lives is about thriving as the unique individuals they have always been and the extraordinary ones they are still becoming. She serves clients worldwide and invites you to visit her site, http://www.stopenduring.com. She is also the author of The Blue Book of Grammar and Punctuation, http://www.grammarbook.com, an award-winning online resource and workbook with easy-to-understand rules, examples, and exercises.

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